Contrary to popular belief a wedding can seem very daunting and nerve-wracking if you are introverted.
Not everyone actually likes to be the centre of attention, especially for long periods of time. Some people can’t imagine anything worse. The sheer thought of being surrounded by people who have all their eyes on you and asking you so many questions in admiration can have your panic levels raised sky high in a matter of seconds – If you let it
If this sounds like you, take a deep breath…
All is at hand, with these tips to help you plan and prepare. You may find that it’s not so bad after all and who knows? You may actually enjoy your special day
Here goes…
- Relax
Make sure you have plenty of time to relax before and after your wedding
- Plan
Play to your strengths. Introverts are often gifted at organising and planning ahead, especially visualising how they would like it in their head, so make the most of this. Start by writing all your ideas down and then make a plan
- Keep it Small
Plan a small wedding. Size doesn’t matter when it comes to weddings, they don’t all have to be large. If you keep it low-key it will be easier to manage and there will be less people there, which usually means less to think about for introverts
- Table Size
Instead of having a main table, try having a table with just those closest to you seated with you. This takes the pressure off a big event and helps make it feel like more of a dinner party with close friends & family
- Small Talk
This is a big no-no for most introverts, they dislike just the thought of it. To help you in these moments of dread, try and prepare a few standard responses ahead of time. These matched with your fabulous smile will go a long way and help remove the tension from the moment
- Catch Your Breath
Try and take regular breaks during the day, if only to catch your breath
- Internet
The internet is a Godsend for introverts. Gone are the days when you have to do everything in person or on the telephone. Use it to plan and prepare as much as possible
- Centre of Attention
Your friends and family are there to support you. However, it is worth remembering that there is no need for you to constantly perform for them. Believe it or not but they are there to enjoy themselves too and most guests will be quite happy catching up with each other, as well as dancing and generally having a good time, so don’t worry about constantly being the centre of attention
- The First Dance
A first dance can be very romantic, but if you find yourself really getting nervous about it, don’t have one. Grab your friends instead and ask them to join in and dance. This will make it more of a group dance and remove the pressure of you both
- Have a Smaller Party
It’s not necessary to have a big party after your ceremony. You may prefer a small reception in a pub or even decide to have a party another day
- No Speech Necessary
If this is proving a bit of a nightmare, simply thank all your guests for coming as an alternative
- Time Out
Most importantly, take regular time out to take in the moment and recharge
- You’ve Got This
Enjoy!
by Pamela Sommers
Pamela is a London wedding jewellery specialist and founder of SommerSparkle, an award-winning online boutique creating fairytale weddings with their beautiful bridal jewellery & accessories.
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